Is it just depression? Or something deeper? I have many things I want to do, and I just can"t bring myself to do them. Even things I need to do, simple things like put away the clean laundry - it seems like such a mountain to climb and I just don"t have the energy. So I kinda do the absolute minimum I can get away with - and wait to do things I must do until I can"t put them off any more.

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It"s called procrastination. I am not sure what the cure is. I am curious to see other people"s advice on the subject as I do the same.
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Not just procrastination. For me, it"s crippling anxiety that makes everything shut down. I go number and functioning grinds to a halt.
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Avoidance, which is a symptom of mood disorders, like depression. General avoidance and lethargy isn"t particularly a symptom of PTSD, but because depression can be comorbid with PTSD quite often, there you go.
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I think it"s primarily depression but when your stress cup is full just one small thing can feel like the most difficult task you have ever done. This happens to me too on bad days.
I have the same issues and it is much more than procrastination...like a mental paralysis of sorts. I think it"s a product of severe depression.

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Avoidance can also simply be unconsciously or consciously avoiding our triggers, and the more we avoid triggers, the more triggers we seem to find to avoid.I think that a big big chunk of mine (I"m incredibly avoidant) comes from when I was between about five and seven years old. I just could not work out what I was getting constantly physically punished for, or dragged off to the headmaster for (my father had warned me that if he ever heard that the school headmaster had beaten me, he would give me an even worse beating when I got home...).The thought would suddenly creep into my mind that what I was busy doing, especially if it was fun, would result in drastic consequences, so it was far better to just not do things.I found other associations too, seeing only one magpie from the school bus was a sure omen that that week i"d be dragged to the headmaster"s office and left to sweat outside it, the same for eating custard. It was only decades later that I learned the concept of the post hoc fallacy (post hoc ergo propter hoc - after this therefore because of this - the cockrel crowing does not cause the sun to rise, regardless of what the cockrel would claim).It"s taken me well over 40 years to realize that it probably had far more to do with the young school teacher"s own issues than it had to do with any actions by me - but I"d been told that school teachers (and policemen) were very clever people who were always right - by my mother who happened to be a school teacher.Add onto that, spending 7 years in a boarding school, where the chances of actually getting started on things I wanted to do - was zero.Avoidance and learned helplessness, they"re bastards.